Investing Time in Relationships, Goal Setting, and Moving Fast

pink-cirrus-winter-sunset-2013-12-15┬áMy time has been heavily invested in work and relationships this past month. The first month of 2014 has been a very busy one for me. It’s sped by so quickly, and I’ve not made time to write this blog as many times as I would have liked to. I’ve been busy with new clients and more long standing clients in my Hollister family therapy practice. It’s been gratifying to begin the healing journey with each of them. I’d like to pause and say a big thank you to each new client who has placed their trust in me.

I’ve been busy with family. I spent time (no, invested time) with my 3 year old grandson Monterey_bay_aquariumthis month. He is growing up so quickly, and watching his little personality unfold is one of the biggest joys in my life. On a day trip to the Monterey Bay Aquarium, he boldly ran from exhibit to exhibit, excited to show us all the things he remembered from his last trip there. He also was conversational with all of the adults he met, and inquired of them, “How old are you? I’m three!” I absolutely treasure every moment with him. I’ve also invested time in my relationship with my husband. I explained to him long ago, when our relationship was young, that I prefer to use the term, “investing time” rather than “spending time” with each other. I know how powerful language is. When you say you are “spending time” it sounds like the time is being used up, frittered away without any benefit. But saying that we are “investing time in each other” has a much more positive connotation. It is a solid investment in the present and the dividend is paid in a solid foundation for our relationship, and in a deep connection for our future. Are you investing time in the people you love?

London_Eye_at_Night_(long_exposure)In February I will be traveling to England with my husband to invest time in his family. We are both looking forward to this time away from work, where we can invest in the people we love. So, I already know that February will be packed full even more than January was. My goals for February include slowing down enough to write more blogs, to take better care of myself through exercise and healthy eating, and to give back to my community through charity and connection. I’d also like to get my rose garden pruned and ready for spring, and enjoy some time in nature.

Do you set goals for yourself? I find that setting goals gives me an opportunity to achieve more. There’s a quote from Douglas Adams…”I love deadlines….I love the whooshing sound they make as they fly by!”douglas_adams_swooshing_deadlines This always brings a grin to my face. Of course, goal setting doesn’t have to be set in stone. The key to enjoying life is flexibility and improvisation.

8225623016_8cd99e2ba6_oWhat deadlines have been flying by you lately? What goals would you like to achieve? Have you been investing time in those you love, or “spending” time foolishly on things that don’t merit your time? Whatever you hope to change in your life, whatever you hope to achieve, I wish you success, inspiration, and joy. I wish you healthy investments and abundant returns.

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